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    Indonesian singer, actress and author Tiga Setia Gara is asking for help in a viral video where she claims she is on the run from her abusive American husband.

    The artist claimed her American husband, James Aaron Tolley, had abused her on several occasions. Tiga had to go through a surgical procedure after one of his assaults, according to the viral video translated by Coconuts Jakarta.


    “To all Indonesians, I want to be honest with you all. The reason why I have a limp is because James (her husband) kicked me in the knee which destroyed my knee, and that’s why I had an operation,” she said in her video initially posted on Instagram, but has since been removed. “I kept it in, I lied to my lawyer, doctors, because I was protecting my man. I don’t want him to be jailed.”

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    Hari ini adalah hari pertama gua untuk Psycal Therapy, harus sabar, dan kontrol otak banget, karena kalau enggak, badan gak bisa gerak kalau kepala gak bilang gerak. Well, ACL surgery is make me learn about everything, terutama mengenai Tuhan. Ketika gua sehat, gua berasa gak pernah ada waktu buat merenung, apalagi bersyukur, yang ada malah merasa kekurangan dan komplen terus. Semuanya serasa tidak pernah cukup. Semenjak gua sakit, gua gak bisa tidur enak, lidah pahit, apalagi badan yang biasa serba gerak dan aktif, mendadak menjadi “diam”. Gadget, TV, game, musik, semua menjengahkan, saking bosannya mata gua pun jadi sakit! Akhirnya gua menemukan jawaban, satu kata sederhana: Terimakasih. Hal ini gua temukan ketika beberapa hari diam tanpa gadget tanpa hiburan apapun, hanya buku, buku, buku dan buku, ketika duduk di teras sambil memandang langit musim panas yang terik, barulah kata Terimakasih itu hadir. Terimakasih kepada Tuhan, engkau kasih aku kelengkapan, serba kecukupan. Juga terimakasih kepada Mom yang bantu menyembuhkan hati dan pikiran gua dengan bingkisan besar bernama: “Kasih juga Sayang”. #blessed #mom #psycaltherapy

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    On August 29, Tiga posted a picture of herself after going through an Anterior Cruciate Ligament (ACL) surgery. She reportedly never mentioned anything regarding the domestic abuse in her post.

    The couple allegedly had another fight recently, but after calling 911, the police did not help her and instead blamed her for being an Asian immigrant.

    “And now we had another fight and he almost hit me. That’s why I called 911. But you know what happened? Police said it was my fault because I’m an immigrant; I’m Asian. Because I looked dramatic, even though I showed them photos of my injuries,” she said.

    Tiga has lived in the U.S. after marrying her husband last year. Her Instagram account is filled with depictions of a happy married life, but after revealing the domestic abuse she’s been through, the artist expressed she wants to leave the U.S. and move back to Indonesia.

    Fortunately, the Indonesian Consulate General in Chicago (KJRI Chicago) posted that they managed to get in touch with Tiga, who is currently staying in Dayton, Ohio.

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    Update 16/9/19, 01:35 dini hari waktu Chicago 1. KJRI Chicago telah berkomunikasi dengan Ibu Tiga Setia Gara. 2. Lokasi Ibu Tiga Setia Gara telah dapat dipastikan yakni di kota Dayton, Ohio. 3. Sejumlah info yang didapat terkait dgn hal ini adalah: a. Ibu Tiga Setia Gara merasa sangat berterima kasih dengan adanya perhatian yang luar biasa dari masyarakat; b. Telah kami sarankan untuk menghubungi Domestic Violence Center di Ohio. Ibu Tiga Setia Gara masih mempertimbangkan karena masih menenangkan diri; c. Pembicaraan berlangsung singkat dan terputus; 4. Saat ini, KJRI masih menunggu untuk dapat kembali berkomunikasi dengan Ibu Tiga Setia Gara, guna memastikan segala langkah tindak lanjut yang dapat diambil, termasuk pendampingan secara langsung. Hal ini untuk memastikan privasi dan kenyamanan beliau tetap kami hargai. 5. Secara khusus, KJRI Chicago telah meminta sejumlah pihak di Dayton, Ohio untuk memberikan perhatian atas hal ini. 6. KJRI Chicago mengapresiasi perhatian masyarakat dan media yang begitu besar terhadap hal ini. Kami akan memberikan update berkala melalui medsos KJRI dalam kesempatan pertama apabila sudah diperoleh kabar lebih lanjut. #kjrichicago @lambe_turah @kbriwashdc

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    The KJRI urged Tiga to reach out to a domestic violence center. The consulate also added it will give further assistance to the artist to get her out of her current predicament and will help notify authorities to do their part in keeping her safe.

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