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Vietnamese TikToker says she was ‘disowned’ for refusing to fund sister’s ‘lavish’ college lifestyle

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  • A Vietnamese TikTok user has gone viral for talking about how her parents "disowned" her after she refused to pay for her sister's “lavish lifestyle” in the United States.
  • “I just got disowned by my parents just now because I refused to fund my sister’s lavish lifestyle when she’s here in the U.S. as an international student,” the woman, who is her family’s eldest daughter, says in the video, which has been viewed over 19.1 million times. “They sent her here three years ago knowing that they don’t have the means to pay for it themselves.”
  • The TikTok user says she had to take up all of her sister's financial responsibilities, including paying for her room and board, tuition and living expenses.
  • “I was called ungrateful and that I got to where I am because of my family and it is my time to pay it back. It is my responsibility to care for my parents and my siblings,” she continues. “So I am their retirement fund, the college fund for my younger siblings.”

A Vietnamese TikTok user has gone viral for talking about how her parents called her “stingy” and “ungrateful” for refusing to pay for her sister’s “lavish lifestyle” as an international student in the United States.

The TikTok user, who did not disclose her real name, reveals in a video she posted on March 26 that she was “disowned” by her Vietnamese parents after she stopped paying for her sister’s expenses.

What to do about hurtful comments from family and loved ones during holiday gatherings

hurtful comments

Holidays usually call for joy and lots of time with loved ones. As much as we may cherish moments with our family and friends, dealing with their unsolicited comments about us can be painful. It’s difficult to spend time with people and build deeper relationships when you’re attacked with those dreaded comments and interrogations: 

“You’ve gained weight.”