It’s the end of the year, a time to take a good hard look at ourselves throughout 2013 and make some resolutions for a better 2014. It’s a time for change, a new beginning, and the only thing more important than making those resolutions is sticking to them. No one can can force you to be better, this task is all on you, and it sure as hell ain’t easy. To help you out a little though, because we are nice guys and all, here are some resolutions you can consider for a better personality, to be a better business person, or just to be a better human being.
1. Don’t air your dirty laundry on social media.
I don’t know what’s up with this generation of people who love to start fights with their boyfriends/girlfriends on their facebook pages or those who leave status updates calling someone out. You’re not just embarrassing yourself, it’s also extremely classless. Just don’t do it, you’re better than that.
2. Balance your network (and yourself).
Jim Rohn once said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Another person once told me that if you want to balance your life and set yourself up for growth, find the following three people: one who is more experienced and successful who you can learn from, one who is on your level that you can relate to, and one that’s less experience and successful that you can mentor.
3. Face the harsh realities of the world.
This is based off of a popular Cracked article from this year. The main point is that the world only cares about what it can get from you. It doesn’t matter how nice of a person you are, if you don’t offer value, you’re nothing. As the article notes, the following speech by Alec Baldwin in “Glengarry Glen Ross” outlines this perfectly.
“It’s brutal, rude, and borderline sociopathic, and also it is an honest and accurate expression of what the world is going to expect from you. The difference is that, in the real world, people consider it so wrong to talk to you that way that they’ve decided it’s better to simply let you keep failing.”
4. Give selflessly.
It’s been scientifically proven that giving donations directly to someone you know or in a way that builds a relationship evokes more positive feelings than just making a charitable donation. Spend the new year finding new ways you can try to give back to your community or someone in your network that is in need. Trust us, it will make you feel good. Just take a look the recent works of the random altruist:
5. Get used to taking hard hits and getting f*cked over.
Lets face it, as you go through life, whatever you do, there will be challenges ahead and people will backstab you and f*ck you over. It’s life and it’s something you’ll need to expect, especially when you’re still young and naive. But if you learn from your mistakes, you’ll be better every single time you make the decision to get back up instead of lying down defeated. If that doesn’t convince you, hopefully Rocky Balboa can:
6. Focus on what you can control.
Tyrese sums up this point quite well in the following video:
7. Take more risks this year.
In the words of Freeway Rick Ross, “The only person that hasn’t lost, trust me, he never played.” You can’t expect to win big if you don’t take risks in life, this applies to anything you do regardless of your industry. DISCLAIMER: This doesn’t mean you should go “YOLO” and do stupid shit that puts your life at risk.
8. Stop bitching.
Complaining about your issues is arguably the most unproductive thing you can do with your life. It doesn’t accomplish anything and worst of all, it makes you feel like shit. Why not just push that energy towards doing something more productive? Like actually DOING SOMETHING to make your situation better.
9. Learn to deal with rejection.
Whether it’s being laid off from work, dumped by a lover, or someone who won’t take you seriously, we’ve all faced rejection at some point in our lives. Over the years, no matter what the circumstance may be, I’ve learned one important lesson: The easiest way to deal with the negative feelings from rejection is to channel that energy into bettering yourself in every way possible. As we go into the new year, always remember to set high standards for yourselves and convert rejection into motivation into becoming a better person for yourself. This will not only make you more valuable in a superficial sense, but give you the confidence and energy needed to draw positivity towards you.
10. Start NOW.
Everyone probably has certain things they plan on doing after the new year. It can be eating better, going to the gym or even just saving money for that dream trip. Truthfully though, how many us of REALLY stick through it? If you really want that rocking body or extra money, don’t wait! START NOW! Every single minute you wait is lost time. It’s much more rewarding to start TODAY and get into the groove of it, otherwise you’ll be like the rest of the people out there that make the same exact New Year’s resolution every year only to fail.
“Yesterday you say tomorrow…Just do it”